How to Move Through Life Transitions

Life transitions have inner and outer manifestations. They often begin internally, without us really noticing. The "transition energy" becomes stronger and stronger until it surfaces into consciousness, and then it wants to be brought into the world, into our lives with others. Often, parts of life transitions are no fun at all, while other parts are pretty exciting. You could say that something new is starting to happen; that it's on its way. It's not even that we "choose" something new; we just sense it coming in. Like a new curve in the river of life.

First Phase: Drop in Energy

You've been in a relationship for a while, or a job or profession. For a long time, it felt right; there was energy in it. As always happens, we learn, we grow, we change. Sometimes the relationship or job/profession allows the change, grows along with us. Sometimes, it doesn't. So you notice you're a bit bored, or it's easier to get irritated, or you're feeling sad or a bit depressed. This can be a sign that you and the person or thing you've been involved in are drifting apart; you're not fitting together anymore. You begin to wonder if you want to continue, but the thought is subtle, and you push it away.

Or it could be that your health isn't what it used to be. What you've always been able to do isn't possible anymore. You want to hold onto to your identity as it has been, but, realistically, you can't.

Second Phase: Fear

The thought/feeling becomes stronger: "I'm not happy in this, and I haven't been happy for a while now. Or maybe this was never the right thing for me. But, OMG, it would be awful to leave. What would I do? Would I be alone? Would I be able to find another job/profession? I don't want to change my life to meet where my health is now. What's going to happen to me?" All the negatives rear up like rattle snakes threatening you. You try to push the whole thing down again, but it doesn't work like it did before.

Third Phase: Try to Improve Your Current Situation

Usually, the best thing to do is to see if things can change within the relationship, job, profession, or whatever it is that you just can't make your peace with anymore. If it's a relationship, bring up what's been upsetting you, what you'd like to see change. Share your imagination of the ideal relationship. See how your partner reacts-verbally, non-verbally and in their behavior. If they agree, if they have the same vision you do, if they begin to act differently and this makes you feel close again, great!

Same thing with a job or profession. Say there's a certain negative person or culture that makes you feel hopeless. The same conflicts come up over and over; a way of doing things that's just not effective. Whatever it is. Think about what how you'd like it to be. What part can you do to try to make it how you want it? Something that would make you freer, more able to be yourself. Try speaking up, making suggestions, or changing how you do your job. See if it makes a difference in the whole environment, or not. If there are treatments you can undergo to have a chance at bettering your health, you could try them. How would you make the changes?

Fourth Phase: Actively Imagine the Transition

OK. You've tried your very best to be who you are in your current/old situation. You've brought up your needs to you partner; you've worked out how to feel close again. In your job, you've done your best to change things so that you can feel fulfilled in what's, after all, a huge part of your days. You've tried the treatments. But it becomes clear your partner just doesn't share your vision and doesn't support the changes. Or your boss continues to berate people, the conflicts at work continue to cycle with no resolution in sight. You feel hopeless, you hate going to work. Whatever the situation you've been trying to change, the changes just don't stick. It keeps reverting back to negative.

Now is the time to begin to imagine what you want in great detail. At first, you'll have no idea. There's a blank space in front of you. There's a feeling of drifting, of nothingness, of not knowing. Stay with that feeling, while also staying with knowing the change needs to happen. Interestingly, ideas will start to come, little-or big-inspirations will arise, you'll meet new people who share your interests, and so on. Grab onto these. Write down the ideas and inspirations; get to know the new people; follow leads, and so on. The more you do this, the more clarity you'll achieve.

Fifth Phase: Do It. Make the Transition

You've got the end-goal in your mind. But of course you can't necessarily get there all at once. Maybe you need to break the whole thing into manageable chunks. A part of you might still be digging its heels in, which will make you want to go off on tangents, or to drift in place, while another part wants to move forward. Whenever you have energy to take on a chunk, do it, even if it's a small thing. Keep the end-goal, the vision, in your sight all the time-or as much as you can. When you take a small or big step, give yourself lots of credit; appreciate your courage. And then take on the next chunk, until you're in your new place. Or, if it's health related, keep working on yourself inside, until you've made a shift to accept what is and live as peacefully as possible in it.

Transitions can be difficult (duh!), and sometimes it's helpful to work with a therapist or work/life coach.

Zoe Zimmermann is a licensed psychotherapist living and working in Boulder, CO. She has experience as a life/work coach and executive coach. She would like to help create a more humane and caring country where everyone feels they belong.

Do you have no idea if you can pass a drug test or not? Well, if the drug test involves urine, you can go for synthetic urine instead. As a matter of fact, synthetic urine is the best way to clear a drug test provided you follow the right steps. The great thing about this artificial urine is that it works like real pee. Usually, this urine is used in laboratories in order to adjust the testing tools. If you want to know more about it, read on.

What is the synthetic urine?

It is a pre-mixed liquid. Usually, experts create this urine in labs for the purpose of calibrating drug testing tools. Besides, this urine is composed of constituents that are similar to the real urine. In other words, the urine looks like similar to the composition, appearance, gravity, pH level and other features of real urine. That is the reason it is used by most lab operators on a regular basis.

The Procedure

Each product of the synthetic urine contains 2 ounces of the liquid, which is enough for the analysis. In the test, the primary components as well as the specific gravity and pH levels are tested.

During the test, if the sample is modified, the pH level and the specific gravity will not be accurate and the specimen will not be accepted. However, the components of the artificial urine have a balanced specific gravity and pH level, which allows you to get the required results in the test.

Before you buy the product

Before you buy the product, make sure you choose the trusted supplier. You don't want to end up buying a fake product. The primary ingredients of the pee are creatinine, uric acid and urea, just to name a few. In the package, you will find different contents, such as a bottle of plastic, a test strip and a heating pad. Make sure the package contains all of the mentioned contents. If something is missing, you should send the package back to the seller and ask for a refund.

How to Use It?

The temperature of the sample should meet the requirement of the test. So, the first thing you need to do is put the sample in the microwave for a few seconds. In a few seconds, the temperature of the liquid will hit 90 to 100 degrees. Once the liquid reaches this temperature, you should get it out of the microwave.

Your next step is to break the ingredients of the heating pad. This will activate the heat producing chemicals right away. As a matter of fact, the most important part of the test is to maintain the temperature of the sample between 97 and 98 degrees. And if the temperature is too high or too low, the test result will be rejected. Therefore, make sure you keep the pad attached to the urine bottle. This will help you maintain the required temperature.

At times, the test conductor is physically evaluated prior to the actual test. This is done to prevent cheating or smuggling. Synthetic urine is easy to hide because it is put in a plastic bottle. Some bottles make use of this pee with penis made of disposable plastic, which covers a squeeze bottle.

So, this was some basic information as to how you can use synthetic urine in order to pass a drug test. Make sure you follow the exact procedure in order to avoid the mistake or get the test rejected. Aside from this, these tips will help you identify a fake product saving you a good deal of money. Hopefully, you will find this article helpful for your drug test.

Every human being is different. That is the reason even fitness experts assess people before suggesting to them fitness regimen or diet regimen that suits them. But at the same time, there are certain things that are common to everyone. One such common thing is that there are certain general diet rules that are applicable to everyone. Therefore, when you have decided to eat the right foods to lead a healthy life, you must first know these common rules.

In fact, the first step towards achieving your aim of putting in place the right diet regimen for you is to know these common rules that are basic to healthy eating. Let us now have a look.

1. Your diet should mainly consist of fiber foods

Researchers have conducted several studies to prove the benefits of fiber foods such as fresh fruits, vegetables, nuts, items made of wholesome grains, etc. These researches have revealed that fiber foods can amazingly keep a number of diseases at bay. They include even chronic diseases like cancer, diabetes, heart and cardiovascular ailments, obesity, and so on.

Fiber foods are low-calorie foods and hence, you need not fear if they will increase your weight. WHO has released a report in which they have provided convincing evidence to prove that those who consistently eat fruits, vegetables and items made of wholesome grains face decreased risks of obesity. On the other hand, high-calorie foods like processed foods containing high amounts of fat and sugar will certainly lead to overweight and obesity.

Further, fiber foods contain various other nutrients as well and hence, they reduce the risks of insulin resistance and diabetes. The best benefit is that you will feel full if you eat these foods but at the same time, you need not worry about weight gains as they contain fewer calories.

Researches have also proved that if you eat 3 to 5 servings of fresh vegetables and fruits a day, you will not face risks like stroke, heart diseases, etc. If you eat more than 5 servings, the risks are even less. Simply put, the more the intake of vegetables and fruits is, the less are the risks of stroke and heart diseases.

2. Say 'no' to processed foods and processed meats

A report released by IARC, otherwise called The International Agency for Research on Cancer, that is a wing of WHO, reveals that processed meats can be the main cause of colorectal cancer. The report also says that red meat can "probably" cause cancers of colon and pancreas as well as prostate cancer.

Further, a study has proved that obesity can cause various types of cancers and hence, you must make it a point to avoid processed foods and processed meats that can make you obese.

3. Reduce intake of sugar

A survey reveals that the sugar intake of an average American is 22 teaspoons a day. But the recommended quantity according to the American Heart Association is 6 teaspoons and 9 teaspoons of sugar for women and men respectively. This means if you have the habit of frequently drinking sugared beverages or fruit juices or eating cakes, pastries, cookies and daily desserts such as ice creams, you will be consuming more sugar than what your body requires. Excessive intake of sugar will lead to obesity and weight gain. Remember also that not all fruit drinks are entirely fruit juices.

4. Drink plenty of water

Many of us overlook the health benefits of water. Water is undoubtedly the healthiest drink and it contains zero calories. If you drink one or two glasses of water about 30 minutes before your meal, you will consume less of food and so, water can help in bringing down your calorie intake also.

If you drink plenty of water, your system will remain hydrated. So, you will be able to stay alert which means your brain will function more efficiently. You will not feel fatigued also if you remain hydrated. The habit of drinking sufficient water daily can help you in preventing health issues such as constipation, kidney stones, etc.

5. Consume less salt

Remember that salt is as dangerous as sugar. While excessive consumption of sugar can lead to issues like diabetes, obesity, weight gain, etc., excessive intake of salt can cause high blood pressure, that is also called "hypertension." So, it is necessary that you have to cut back on your sodium intake.

Health organizations like the American Heart Association and the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute recommend that our sodium intake should be less than 2,500 milligrams a day. But a survey reveals that an average American consumes 3,478 milligrams a day. There is no wonder many Americans are suffering from issues like hyper-tension.

Researches conducted in the United States reveal the saltiest foods are processed foods, packaged foods and those prepared in restaurants. So, you must avoid eating processed and packaged foods. Similarly, you should go for home-cooked foods instead of those prepared in restaurants.

Here's an important factor that has a huge impact on your overall fitness level and general wellness: your diet.

What is a "diet?"

The word "diet" means "a collection of food items that a person regularly eats."

Every person has a current diet. If you know someone who eats cheesy potatoes and cheeseburgers six days a week, that's still considered a diet (admittedly, a very unhealthy one).

If you want to slim down and tone up, start by examining the composition of your present diet to determine how many calories you are consuming per day. Analyzing your current diet can also reveal if you are getting enough essential nutrients, water and dietary fiber.

What is a quality diet?

A quality diet provides a balanced mix of macronutrients and micronutrients in the right amounts. Here is a quick recap of the essential nutrients that our bodies need to function normally:


Protein - Protein repairs and builds muscle tissues. People who regularly perform cardio and weight training need sufficient protein to build lean muscle mass.

Both male and female bodybuilders consume large quantities of protein-rich food to ensure that fat stores are kept to a minimum and that muscle size and strength are maintained.

Carbohydrates - Carbohydrates are the main fuel of the body. Our bodies transform carbohydrates into glucose, a usable form of sugar. The body can also store glucose in the muscles.

When glucose is stored in the muscles, it's transformed into a substance called glycogen.

It may be more difficult to lose weight if you completely remove carbohydrates from your diet because the body needs carbs as its primary energy source.

Fat - Fat performs numerous important functions in the body, including vitamin absorption, transport and storage.

It also creates a padding around the muscles that acts as a shock absorber. Fat also improves a person's thermoregulation and prevents too much heat from escaping the body especially during cold weather.

Excess calories from food are stored in our fat tissues. When we lose weight, we don't actually "burn off" fat cells. Our fat cells simply shrink as the excess fat is burned off through exercise and other physical activities.

Water - Keeping your body hydrated is easy! All you will ever need is pure water. My personal rule for hydration is equally easy to remember. If you're thirsty, reach for water 99% of the time.

If you drink soda, start reducing your daily consumption and replace it with water. You'll soon feel more energized because your body is not under the constant influence of diuretics found in soda.

Dietary Fiber - Dietary fiber plays a crucial role in maintaining cardiovascular and digestive health.

Fiber has the ability to block some of the lipids or "bad cholesterol" from being absorbed by the body.

Insoluble fiber on the other hand (fiber that cannot be digested by the body) acts as a cleaning machine inside the colon and helps you clear your colon effortlessly.


Vitamins - Vitamins are used by the body to maintain normal growth and development. Vitamins also enhance major and minor functions within the body such as eyesight and skin growth.

Minerals - Minerals are inorganic substances derived from the food we eat. The body cannot naturally create minerals.

You have to make sure that you are getting enough minerals from your diet. Essential minerals include calcium, iron, potassium and zinc. Minerals naturally occur in meats, vegetables and fruits.

How do you know if you are getting enough nutrients?

Losing weight does not mean you have to sacrifice your nutrition. Weight loss actually comes naturally when you modify your diet and add more of the best food on the planet like beans, legumes, green leafy vegetables, cruciferous vegetables, etc.

Superfoods like spinach and broccoli provide only a modest amount of calories in every serving so it would be challenging to "overeat" when your diet is comprised of at least 85% healthy, whole food. Usually, it's the nutrient-deficient food items like candy bars and hamburgers that are responsible for caloric overload in a person's diet.

Be mindful of what you eat (even when you're just snacking) and you just might discover the food items that are making you gain weight!

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